If you are in a relationship with your partner, you may be wondering why it is not the same as it used to be and whether it will last. Maybe you don’t want to admit that the relationship is going through a phase. Indeed, this is how nature works.
All of our experiences can be described by a sequence of sounds and bells: up, up and down. This applies to everything in life; change is only constant. We are in eternal change, a continuous process of change. Relationships cannot be excluded from this policy. After all, they are living, human systems that grow and change. These two people are still in a business relationship, so this process will change as well.
1. Romance: attachment to another person
Love is the first step in a relationship. He was first motivated by interest and later included the opportunity to respond to that interest. We are responsible for every choice we make, and these steps can lead us to love as we build the foundation of our relationship.
Love is like magic. You love the other person, appreciate them, enjoy being with them and around them. You see them as the perfect person who can bring you happiness and joy, and they inspire you to be amazing, beautiful and beautiful with them. It sounds like you both encourage the best version of the other to come out.
Although love is a good step, it is also temporary. And that makes perfect sense; both physiologically and developmentally. Sexual energy, adrenaline and dopamine are high, but they are not enough to maintain the promise of a long-term romantic relationship. Adrenaline continues to rise and is critical for our health. Therefore, by nature we are not happy, happy and surprised by our partner, so that we do not hurt ourselves.
In the time of love, we love. However, being in love does not mean that we know and see the other person as a whole, or that we really love them. We fall in love with the idea of another in our minds, we will know their Persona, their true representation of themselves outside the world. We also give them our Persona, checking carefully that it is good to start showing our pieces that we carefully keep inside.
A good vision of a loved one is not bad. Love is not a lie. In love, we are seen in all our loving capacities. It reflects who we are on the inside, without fear or dark spots. But the truth is not the same thing as the truth, because the truth shows that others see us in general – and vice versa.
2. Conflict: separation from another person
A period of conflict means distancing yourself from your partner. Although we are led to hatred, even contempt, conflict, we should not really fear it, because it is part of the process. Crisis is necessary for us to move from romantic speculation to mature conversation at the beginning of a relationship. But this step can be a big red flag for poisoning if it becomes a habit for the couple. In times of conflict, good humor and love between you and your partner allows for the truth of both of you.
Love shows us the good side of our loved ones, while conflict reveals the dark side. However, everything in life includes light and darkness – negative things. We are in the minus and many shades of gray in between. This is a problem when we are different from our friends. We collect, we are told that we have to use dialogue to restore the balance – but only to destroy the connection completely. It is inevitable that we will always be different, because we are different! No one is exactly the same, this clear fact should give some comfort and consolation.
It is in times of trouble that our shadow, our hidden side begins to emerge. Insecurity, fear, hurt, need to control, gambling, recklessness, neediness, pride and stubbornness will be evident. We are required to let go of our control over money, our expectations of what a relationship should be, what our partner should give us, and how they should interact. If we stick to what is expected, we avoid looking at the truth, and this can hurt, even suffer.
3. Consent: Integration
If a couple does not destroy their relationship during a conflict, instead of choosing to overcome, talk, organize, and solve the problem, they agree. Finally, it is a time when light and darkness come together, you will realize that you are the person with your strengths and weaknesses, just like your partner. You can view your relationship as a group. If you have had some conflict, it will make you feel better and understand yourself better.
It increased the trust between you and made you better with each other. This is what true love looks like: safety, harmony, balance, spirit. You are no longer in love with your partner, blind to the fact that he is not good or weak. You know very well that they are not perfect, but that is okay, because you accept, value and generally love them now. Both of you are committed to working on yourself to improve your relationship to make it a safer place, at least for both of you.
In conclusion
Relationships have stages like anything else in life.
If you want to deepen your commitment and improve intimacy, it requires daily choices to approach, plan, and solve problems and honor your agreement with your partner.
